Thursday, April 24, 2014

Every Wall Should Have A Window

“The wall we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy.”
– Jim Rohn
(1930-2009) Author / Speaker

A young man who I was coaching came to me with a question.  He was fairly new to coaching and wanted to start his own practice.  His desire was sincere and he really wanted to help people and add value to their lives.  To do this he decided to focus on the things he felt would make him better.  He studies and read everything he could find on coaching and personal development.  He worked hard at maintaining a positive attitude, to the point where he disconnected himself from the world and all the negative elements that are there.  What was his question?  Simple, "Why am I so miserable?"

                There are many in this world who believe that the best way to keep away from the hurt and negativity that is around them is to build walls of separation.  They do not allow themselves to be touched by the things of the world nor the people in it.  This will always lead to loneliness and pain.  In a desperate attempt to keep yourself untouched, you become untouchable.  This is really a bad misunderstanding about what it means to be separate from the negative things in life.

                As Christians I have heard people state that God has called them to be separate from the world.  This is a long running story in the Church going back to the early monks who would lock themselves away.  Where I agree that we are not to live as the world lives, we are to in this world.  Remember that you are the salt and light that God has placed in the world.  We are the change makers who bring hope and victory to a hurting and lost world.  We are to be in the world but the world is not to be in us.

                Here is a fact, you need other people and they need you.  Will that mean that you have to associate with those who are negative and living in sin?  Yes it does.  Jesus Himself associated with sinners and the ungodly.  The thing is, they were not the same with Him in their lives, He was not changed by them.  Likewise, you are to make a difference in the lives of others, not them making a difference in you.  You are not there to bring judgment and wrath.  You are there to bring hope, love, acceptance and to give freely what the Lord has given freely to you.

                Do not hide from the world around you.  There is a lot of pain and negativity out there but there is a lot of wonderful things as well.  For one, the world is filled with people who Jesus loved so much He was willing to die for them.  The least we can do is live with them.  A positive attitude, winning spirit and godly life all come from within us, not from the outside.

                You matter to the world.  You are here to make a difference and that difference is good.  Remember the qualities of a real success-minded person: Be your best.  Love God.  Have good manners. Discover the unknown.  Change the world.

John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, and Life Coach. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at http://www.growthcenter.net or www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2014 John Patrick Hickey


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